The Danger of Passive Masculinity
It’s trendy these days to blame our problems on men– mass shootings, sexual assault, war. All of these, feminists say, can be traced back to what they call “toxic masculinity” – the infectious disease of maleness that we’ve let pervade society for far too long. Since, they purport, men are the common denominator in so many of the tragedies our country endures, they must be the root of our unrest.

In an effort to snuff out this male toxicity, Hollywood — our bastion of reason and morality — suggests that we emasculate men. Surely that will do the trick! After all, how many mass shooters, sexual harassers and rapists do you know who are eunuchs? Exactly. This explains why chauvinist-turned-Ghandi Jimmy Kimmel joked at the Oscars that “Oscar is the perfect man” because he has “no penis at all.” As the old saying goes, ‘if you can’t beat ‘em, castrate ‘em.’

Just days later, this was the cover of The Hollywood Reporter:

Tongue-in-cheek or not, the underlying message from the entertainment industry is clear: maleness is the core of our trouble. If we had less of it, the world would be a better place. Take a look at a few of these recent headlines:

Alright. We get it: men are bad. And, apparently, if men were just less masculine– weaker, more feminine, gentler – we wouldn’t have so many issues. And, really, except for being contradicted by every piece of factual data in existence, the theory is flawless.

What these man-hating, virtue-signaling, third-wave feminist whitewashed tombs don’t realize is: it’s not masculinity that’s the problem, it’s a lack of masculinity. It’s not male strength that’s the base of our issues, it’s male weakness.

Confident, self-assured men – the kind our society needs – don’t rape women. They don’t harass their female employees. Brave men don’t bully their peers. Strong men don’t shoot up schools. They don’t patronize or hurt others to prove their masculinity.

Weak, insecure ones do.

That’s why 26 out of the last 27 deadliest mass shooters were fatherless. That’s why boys who grow up in single-mother homes are twice as likely to commit crimes than those who grow up with a present dad. That’s why both sons and daughters are more likely to become depressed without a strong relationship with their father. That’s why 71% of high school dropouts are fatherless.

Not because they had too much male strength in their lives, but because they didn’t have enough.

If masculinity were truly toxic, then wouldn’t boys and girls who grow up without dads be happier and healthier? If it were better that men were more like women, wouldn’t kids be just as content with a mom than with having a father, too?

Like it or not, masculinity — in its best, strongest form — is the kingpin of the family. Humble, strong leadership as expressed by a father is simply not, in most cases, adequately replaced by a mother. Those without a strong father tend to act out in aggression in their adolescent and adult years– not because they’re oversaturated with maleness, but because they’re starving for it. 

The void caused by fatherlessness, along with its consequential damage, should be a pretty good indication that it’s not less or weaker men that we need, but more strong ones. If the family deteriorates because of a lack of a strong male figure, doesn’t it follow that society, too, falls apart without strong, honorable men?

If we know that kids who grow up without dads are more likely to be a threat to themselves and to others, shouldn’t we be trying to save masculinity, rather than kill it?

Unfortunately, as logical as it may seem, that line of thinking is seen as radical to the Left, who are working hard towards their dystopian future, where humanity is nothing more than an amorphous, genderless blob of nihilistic relativism. The idea of “traditional family values” doesn’t exactly fit into their plans.

The simple truth is: we need good men. We need strong dads. We need loyal brothers and friends. We need them to be protective. We need them to work hard. We need them to care. We need them to be present. We need them to stand up for us. We need them to hold it together. We need all of the things that feminists swear we don’t. We need honest, self-sacrificing, servant-leader, and — yes — Christlike men. We need them, and we women need to raise, encourage and affirm them into existence. (I made a quite controversial video about this once.)

I don’t mean that women can’t be these things, too; I believe in the power and purpose of strong women. Anyone who knows me knows how outspoken and career-minded I am, and that I don’t take well to being patronized. The necessity of masculinity has nothing to do with diminishing the strength of women— it has to do with complementing and bolstering it.

Masculine strength comes in many forms, and in its truest, it loves, protects, serves, works, builds and fortifies in a way that only it can.

Let’s encourage that masculinity rather than shaming it into nonexistence. Our future as a society literally depends on it.





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  1. Girl….you are amazing! A big fat YES to every single word written here. I just wish more “youngins” thought like this. I absolutely love your videos, your writings, your wit, your morals and beliefs. I’m on board with all of it. Keep up the great work!

    ~ Jen…a 42-yr-old true Georgia Peach mom of 3 with a super hotty husband. 😎

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  3. Back in the early 1990s, a zoologist noted that young male elephants raised in femaile-only herds tended to grow up rogue. They became hyper-aggressive bullies that couldn’t adapt to the social structure of the herd. The scientist concluded that male animals needed to learn male behavior from males who were competent, capable and productive members of their herd. Today’s feminists are truly science deniers who can’t handle the reality that men and women are different in terms of neurobiology, that moms make lousy dads and vice versa, and that “equality” is fiction unless you factor God and one’s soul into the equation.

  4. Good points but she’s another be-the-kind-of-man-who-best-serves-women type. She even says it’s Christ-like men who are needed. Really? We need men who get betrayed by all their friends and executed slowly and painfully at 33? Who are fine with throwing themselves under the bus for everyone else?

    If you are in fact an immortal God, you can afford this. However mortal men are not.

    I’d like to see one of these strong God-fearing career women one day advocate for a version of manhood that suggests to men they decide their own course in life without considering placing female imperatives at the point of highest consideration.

    That’ll be the day you see the clouds part.

  5. @Matt: Christ-like refers to the attributes of Jesus Christ himself… not the circumstances and events during his life on Earth.

    1. I personally have no interest in sacrificing myself for women, particularly when most of them wouldn’t sacrifice a thing for us.
      Men and women don’t have identical interests, and that’s fine, but the prospect of marriage – giving up sex after a few years, losing all of your freedom and property rights, being placed at severe legal and economic disadvantages – are extremely unappealling to most men.
      Practically speaking, men can do nothing, politically, to make marriage more palatable. If women want more husbands and fathers, they’ll need to reform family law and make a few sacrifices themselves.
      At it stands now, any man who marries is a fool. There are no upsides for him to do so. Even allegedly Christian, godly women are easily able to ruin any man. If the deck us stacked against us, we have little reason to be dealt into the game.

  6. Hello ,

    I saw your tweet about animals and thought I will check your website. I like it!

    I love pets. I have two beautiful thai cats called Tammy(female) and Yommo(male). Yommo is 1 year older than Tommy. He acts like a bigger brother for her. 🙂
    I have even created an Instagram account for them ( ) and probably soon they will have more followers than me (kinda funny).

    I have subscribed to your newsletter. 🙂

    Keep up the good work on your blog.


  7. What a stupid and dishonest article. The phrase “toxic masculinity” describes a corrupted version of real masculinity. People who use the phrase “toxic masculinity” are not saying “masculinity is toxic” they are saying that “TOXIC masculinity is bad for society and we need good masculinity”. Yes, some describe “good masculinity” as a softer version, more similar to “average feminine values” than Trumps locker room banter. But nobody is seriously suggesting the castration of men as a solution either literally or metaphorically. The author of this article in criticising the criticisers of “toxic masculinity” is falling into the trap of suggesting that we need more of it. Because she equates toxic with normal when it’s not. Nobody needs more of sexism, selfish entitlement, repression, and abuse. Those are the expression of toxic masculinity whereas authentic masculinity exhibits courage, compassion, respect and self sacrifice.

    The author clearly wants that but misrepresents the “opposition”‘s position out of, I think, deliberate dishonesty.

    It’s popular for conservatives to mischaracterise feminism and this author does it too, claiming that feminists say we don’t need: “good men, strong dads, loyal brothers and friends. We need them to be protective. We need them to work hard. We need them to care. We need them to be present. We need them to stand up for us. We need them to hold it together.”

    Ask any feminist if this is true! That they don’t want men to be like this. The author is either insane or totally dishonest. This article would have been great if it simply argued that men need to step up and take their responsibilities. But she completely ruined it with her dishonest straw man attacks. Make your own argument compelling Allie without misrepresenting your “opponents”‘s.

  8. I agree with most of your article, however, I think the most kmportant element of a good strong, masculine Man and Fsther is – GOOD MORAL CHARACTER. Without good character, strong men can do great evil. Strong does not equate to Good.

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  11. When I was a kid, I was taught that words without action are nothing but words.
    Every day, I see new blogs, and videos, and Facebook postings, and pictures of “I don’t need Feminism because…” signs, not because these people mean it, but because they know misandry has gone too far….
    ……for the time being.
    Much like after First Wave Feminism,
    and again after Second Wave Feminism,
    and (if so inclined) again after Third Wave Feminism.
    Unless lawmakers change laws for equity and not equality, then postings like this are only a respite until the next wave hits.
    And who is in charge of lawmakers right now?
    Its certainly not men postings like this claim to be in support of. If that were true, I wouldn’t have had a need to write this and you wouldn’t be reading it.

    It’s probably the man-haters that are gearing up for the next wave.
    Like what has been done at least twice before.

    So, what now?